We use Rob Green’s Tying the Knot as a guide for premarital counseling. Topics addressed include:
Both fiancés will fill out individual premarital personal data inventories (PDI) and send them to email@example.com. The purpose of the PDI is to help us know how we can best serve you and to help raise the issues we see as vital to discuss before marriage. We understand that this form will contain personal information. Once we receive the form it will be kept confidential and shared only with the pastoral staff involved with your premarital counseling. Please email firstname.lastname@example.org with any questions
If there is a particular pastor or counselor at Lighthouse that you would like to perform your wedding and conduct premarital counseling, you can feel free to contact that pastor directly. Otherwise, once we receive your premarital PDI, our counseling ministry will find an available pastor to provide counsel and to officiate your wedding.
If it is not possible to hold the minimum of six sessions over the course of six months, then the church may still provide premarital counseling, but you will need to find a non-Lighthouse pastor to perform the ceremony.
There are many elements that may be part of a wedding ceremony. Lighthouse asks that at least these seven elements be included: Welcome and Invocation, Declaration of Intent, Question to the Parents, Homily, Exchange of Vows, Exchange of Rings, and Pronouncement.
Your wedding day is an important event in the life of your families. While parental disapproval may not prevent our involvement in your wedding, we want to look carefully at the issues raised by your parents and work toward a peaceful resolution.
No. Because we view the counseling at Lighthouse as a vital part of discipleship, all counseling is provided free of charge. However, we highly encourage giving a thank you gift to your counselor and wedding officiant as a token of appreciation for all their hard work.
Yes. You can also have co-officiants if you would like two pastors to perform your wedding (e.g. two pastors from Lighthouse, or a pastor from Lighthouse and a pastor from a different church).